If we really want to help ourselves feel better…
We have to stop “blaming” the war on what’s been happening to us emotionally.
We’re not going to engage in victim blaming, however, the war has by now become what we call an “Existential Given.”
It is a cold hard fact, and it is now a fixed part of our existence.
Accepting the war as a given forces us to look inwards and stop hoping for an external resolution.
We have to look at our habits, our past, and our framework to understand where we are giving ground to non-conducive patterns of being.
Let me explain…
The war by itself is a hotbed for our “shadow” to emerge from: our upbringing, our way of being, and existential themes such as death, despair, and loneliness are all coming to light.
If we weren’t adept at dealing with these before, we are called to master them today, and right now.
That is not to take away from our suffering, especially if we lost someone close to us.
Our suffering is real and not imagined.
We did not choose to be in this, and yet we are responsible to keep ourselves in check, wherever we can.
And that’s how the light gets in.